Most people live their lives in a satisfactory mode. We are all settling with reality instead of challenging it and getting better outcomes. We are all being complacent.
If you are complacent your entire life, it will lead to stagnancy — dull and sluggish. Anyone reading this right now that doesn’t mind feeling dull and sluggish, don’t continue reading. But if you want to feel active and vibrant, keep reading.
What does it mean to have an anti-mindset?
When I refer to a mindset I want to apply to my life, I would just use “mindset”. But if I didn’t want to apply it to my life, or apply the opposite, I would say “anti-mindset”. I don’t want to be complacent, so I have to have an anti-mindset with complacency.
Complacency can be interpreted as being comfortable and secure. That doesn’t sound so bad right? It means that what you are doing is right and that you should maintain on the path you are currently on. Sike 😎
What it actually means is that you aren’t moving forward in life and improving yourself. The number of people that make this mistake is insane!
I don’t want your take away from this article to be that being happy and settled is bad. That’s not what I’m saying at all. Whether you choose to live a more common life or you live an extraordinary life, you have to reach for more than what is comfortable.
You can be happy and settled but still, reach for more. You can continue to grow your business, your relationships and your health. You don’t need to live an extraordinary life to strive for more.
Why is this important?
Complacency leads to stagnancy. Stagnancy can lead to huge procrastination of your goals which is limiting your progress and personal growth, you aren’t achieving significant things over long term periods, you are living under your potential, and so much more. Essentially, you aren’t doing anything significant. You’re going nowhere.
You will start turning to sleep, eating, mindless activities and entertainment for comfort. These will bring you short-term happiness, but in the longterm, you will be unhappy.
The reason for this is you won’t be working towards anything, you won’t have any personal growth and you won’t be achieving your goals.
I am going to make the assumption that people reading this want long-term happiness, and that can’t be achieved if you are being complacent.
Adopting this anti-mindset 🧠
After we understand what this is and why it's important, we need to understand how it can be applied. Here are ways to adopt this anti-mindset!
1. Have goals you are passionate about
Constantly working towards something that you are passionate about, that you want to work on every day and that gets you excited will completely eliminate complacency. By actively pursuing your goals every day, you are eliminating the ability to say “this is good enough” or “I’ll do this tomorrow”.
But, the most important thing about this one is you have to be passionate about the goal you are working towards. If it isn’t getting you excited you will procrastinate working on it which turns into complacency!
2. Practice self-forgiveness
Don’t dwell on what you’ve done in the past. If you’ve been complacent in the past, reflect on it, forgive yourself, and move on. If you continue to look back on the past you won’t be able to make progress for the future. Focus on the present 🔑
3. Remember that you are mortal
Unfortunately, we are not immortal, we don’t have all the time in the world. This sucks for a few reasons but it's amazing for getting rid of complacency!
You could die tomorrow, so if not now then when? Whenever you feel like you are going to slip back into complacency ask yourself that question. You could die in the next month, you have no idea. If you want your last thoughts to be “I should have put more time into XYZ” than all the power to you. But if you want your last thoughts to be “I’m so glad I put time and energy into XYZ” then get rid of the complacency and remember you are mortal!